அயல் நாட்டு அவதி

ஏதோ படிச்சோம் ஏதோ தட்டு தடுமாறி பாஸ் பண்ணோனு இருந்தா ரொம்ப கஷ்டம். நல்லா படிக்கனும் அப்பத்தான் மச்சான் மாதிரி நீயும் அமெரிக்காவோ, எதுத்த வீட்டு தம்பி மாதிரி ஆஸ்திரேலியாவோ போக முடியும். நம்ம ஒன்னு விட்ட சகல சிங்கப்பூர்ல இருக்காரு, நல்லா படிச்சா வேலைக்கு உதவி பண்ணுறேன்னு சொல்லி இருக்காரு. சகல ஏதோ சிங்கப்பூருக்கே கவர்னர் மாதிரி. படிக்கிற காலத்துல காதுல கேட்டு கேட்டு சலிச்சு போனதுதான் மிச்சம். கடைசில உண்மை என்ன? படிக்கிறதுக்கும், அயல் நாடு போறதுக்கும் எந்த சம்மந்தமும் இல்லை என்பது ஊரறிந்த ரகசியம்.

இங்க வந்துதான் ஆஹா ஓஹோன்னு இருக்கான்னு பாத்தா அதுவு இல்ல.அந்த கண்றாவி இங்க வந்த பிறகுதான் தெரியுது. ஊருல அம்மா அப்பாக்கு பணம் அனுப்ப வக்கு இருக்கோ இல்லையோ, வக்கனையா இங்க வீடு வாங்கிட்டு, பாக்கிறவன்கிட்ட பாக்காதவன்கிட்டலாம் கை கடிக்குது கால் கடுக்குதுன்னு வாய்  விட்டு புலம்பறது. இன்னோரு கோஷ்டி, தன் கிட்ட யாராவது எதையாவது கேட்க போகிறார்களோ என்று முன் கூட்டியே புலம்ப ஆரம்பித்து விடுவது. மொத்தத்தில் இயல்பாகப்பேசி ஒருவருக்கொருவர் உதவி செய்து கொண்டிருந்த காலம் மலையேரி போச்சுது, அதுதான் கசப்பான உண்மை. அயல் நாடோ, உள் நாடோ, நிலைமை முன்னைப்போல் இல்லை.

வெளி நாட்டு நண்பர் ஒருத்தரு சமீபத்துல ஜவுளி கடைக்கு போய் இருக்காரு. அவர் சென்னையில் வேலை பார்த்துக்கொண்டிருக்கும் போது 5000 ருபாய்க்கு மனைவிக்கு பட்டு சேலை எடுத்துக்கொடுத்தா, அது ரொம்ப பெரிய விஷயம். 5 வருஷம் கழித்து  க்ரீன் கார்டு வாங்குன பெருமையுடன் ஊருக்கு போயி, ஜவுளிக்கடைல ஒரு 15000 ருபாய்க்கு சேலை எடுத்து போடுங்கன்னு சொன்னா, வெளிப்படையா ஜவுளிக்கடைக்காரரு அவருக்கிட்ட " நீங்க அமெரிக்கால்ல இருந்து வந்திருக்கீங்கலா?"  னு கேக்குறாரு. அடுத்த அதிர்ச்சி என்னான்ன?  நீங்க எதுத்த கடைக்கு போனா, அங்க கொஞ்சம் விலை கட்டுப்படியாகுற மாதிரி கிடைக்கலாம்னு சொல்லியிருக்காரு. இது ஒரு அப்பட்டமான உண்மை.

இந்திய நண்பர்கள் அனைவரிடத்தும் ஒரு பொதுவான நல்ல வழக்கம். எங்கேயாவது முதலீடு செய்து கொண்டேயிருப்பது. ஒரு பிரிவினர், அயல் நாட்டில் வீடு வாங்கி விட்டு, இந்த மாதம் பட்ஜெட் கொஞ்சம் இருக்கம் என்று விழி பிதுங்கி நிற்பது, மற்றொரு பிரிவினர் இனி மேல் எங்கு இருக்கப்போகிறோம் என்பதே தெரியாமல் அயல் நாட்டில் சம்பாதித்து உள் நாட்டில் வீடு வாங்கி, வெளியிலும் சொல்லவும் முடியாம, மெல்லவும் முடியாம அவதிப்படுவது, ஒரு தனி ரகம். வெளி நாட்டிலிருந்து ஒருவர் உள்ளூருக்கு எதாவது முதலீடு செய்யாலாம் என்று வந்தால், அவர்கள் படும் கஷ்டம் சொல்லி மாலாது. கை வண்டி இலுப்பவரிலிருந்து, ரியல் எஸ்டேட் செய்பவர் வரை, அயல் நாட்டு அன்பரிடம் வசூலிக்கும் தொகை சற்று மிகுதியாகவே இருக்கும்.

வெள்ளைக்காரனக்கு ஒரு விஷயம் மிகவும் நன்றாக தெரியும். ஒரு இந்தியனிடத்தில் எப்படி வேலை வாங்குவது அல்லது இந்தியனை வைத்தே மற்ற இந்தியர்களிடம் எப்படி வேலை வாங்குவது, இந்தியனை வைத்தே மற்ற இந்தியர்களின் கண்ணை எப்படி குத்துவது, என்பதெல்லாம் அவனுக்கு அத்துப்படி. கடையிசியாக ஒரு இந்தியனுக்கு கேடு விளைவிப்பது என்னாவோ, பெரும்பாலும் சக இந்திய குடி மகனே. என்ன பன்ன? அவனுக்கு நம்மள ஆண்டு பழக்கம், நமக்கு எவனையாவது ஆளவிட்டே பழக்கம். நாம் தேர்ந்தெடுக்கும் நபர் அதற்க்கு மேல் யாராவது பார்ப்பதற்க்கு அழகாயிருந்தாலும் ஓட்டு, அழகாய் தமிழ் பேசினாலும் ஓட்டு, காசு கொடுத்தாலும் ஓட்டு.  ஒவ்வொரு இந்திய குடிமகனும், ஒரு அன்னப்பறவையயை போல், அது எப்படி பாலையும், நீரையும் பிரித்தெடுக்குமோ, அது போல் நாமும், சரியான நபரை தனியாக பிரித்து, அவருக்கு டெபாசிட் கூட கிடைக்கமுடியாத படி செய்துவிடுவோம். எங்கேயோ படித்த ஒரு ஹைகூ கவிதை  "இந்தியாவுல சுதந்திரம் கிடைத்த பிறகு, எல்லோருக்கும் பட்டாடை உடுத்தாலாம் என்று ஆசை, கிடைத்தபிறகுதான் தெரிந்தது, ஏற்கனவே கட்டியிருந்த கோவணமும் உருவப்பட்டது என்று".

ஏன் இந்த அவதி. அயல் நாட்டில் சம்பாத்திது உள்ளூரில் முதலீடு செய்பவன் கெட்டிக்காரனா? இல்லை உள்ளூரில் சம்பாதித்து அயல் நாட்டில் முதலீடு செய்பவன் கெட்டிக்காரனா? அது எப்படி சாத்தியம்? இது என்னவோய் அசட்டு தனாமான கேள்வி? சத்தியமாக சாத்தியமே. உள்ளூர் அரசியவாதியிடம் கேட்டு பாருங்கள். ஊருக்கு ஒரு வீடு வைத்து இருப்பார், ஐயா நான் சொல்வது செங்கலும் சிமெண்டும் சேர்த்து கட்டிய வீடு, நாட்டுக்கு ஒரு வங்கி கணக்கு வைத்து இருப்பார். அனைத்து துறைகளிலும் தனது குடும்ப பிரதி நிதிகளை வைத்து இரவு பகல் பாராது சம்பாதித்து கொண்டேயிருப்பார், மன்னிக்கவும், தொண்டாற்றிக்கொண்டேயிருப்பார். ராஜாவோ மந்திரியோ, ராஜா மாதிரி மந்திரியோ, இப்படி பொருள் ஈட்டுவதுதான் புத்திசாலித்தனம். கனிப்பொறியில் உட்கார்ந்து கண்ணை கசக்கி, மூளையைய் கசக்கி, உடலை வருத்தி  வெள்ளைக்காரன் காலால் இட்ட பணியை தலையால் செய்து முடிப்பவனை என்னவென்று சொல்வது.

No more bullying

Recently we would have come across lot of news in the media like suicide attempt and committing suicide in educational institutions. Some people dropped out of school and some jumped out of bridge. Very sad to hear. Most of the time, the root cause is sycophantic approach of few individuals. Either weak individuals have to completely stay away from them or completely surrender to them to avoid any future damage, choosing second option is not a long time solution, it is like catching the tiger’s tail. This is not only at school or college, in office environment are also quite frequently you can witness these kind of scenes. What kind of pleasure are they going to have out of this? nothing, but the curse of weak individual. Actually they are polluting themselves and trying to make few stupids to laugh, nothing else. You can acquire anything, but never try to have curse, it will affect not only you, it will carry over to your heirs also along with other movable and immovable assets.

Without having any actual skills and power, how one can expect others to follow them! In a small group people, how one can try to show he knows lot, without actually knowing much. If someone corrects him certainly that guy who is assuming he knows lot, does not like him and try to side line him. This is nothing but typical politics. Everyone must try to acquire some talent, then only respect and recognition will wait in their door step. Respect, dignity and leadership can not be earned directly, these are by products of good attitude and real skills.

In college or school or work place, don’t get into any gangs, just ignore them and stay away from them. In decent work atmosphere, one sycophant was appointed as a director. Moment he entered into office, he made a nice announcement  “if you have any problem, please feel free to come to my office and you can share your problems”. Don’t wonder, really this is nice only, but master punch followed after this. Also he added that just come with your problems, at any cost don’t come with your insane suggestions. In a meeting, others can not just laugh for any jokes, first he will decide, that is joke or not, till that time everyone have to keep quite. Good thing was, he was a director and he was not in touch with engineers like me. Out of 5 managers, he does not like 2 managers, because really they did not know about him and also they are self respected and talented individuals. In a meetings literally he used to tease them and abuse them with elite words. Out of that 2 managers, one of the manager was my ex colleague. Obviously you may wonder, why I remain in the same position, don’t worry, still I am searching for the answer. That guy he used to share his grievance. Always one must keep in mind, in this world, every boss will have another boss. With in 2 years, that director was fired. One day down the line that manager would have been promoted to director, then what kind of treatment others can expect from him. These bullying people, not only corrupting them self, they are spoiling the people around them also.

Never laugh for mean jokes which is hurting others physically or emotionally. In young age, I have seen lot of people used to laugh, when I slipped down or got hurt. This mentality may follow in other cases also. These kind of people surely laugh in their mind if really something very bad thing happen to others. In your friends house, if death or job loss or theft happened, will you go there and crack any jokes? No right, but bullying people, internally they will get some happiness out of it. It is not their fault, certainly it is caused by people who is entertaining them. Stop talking to them, never laugh for their silly jokes. Make them to understand, they are not the only guy created by god and others also having real meaning in their birth. We also have to nurture our kids, not to laugh if some one gets hurt, make them feel that is their pain also.

Marketing Menace – II

Marketing guys knows how to please you, they are so familiar with how to melt the ice berg. They never allow you to think much, immediately they would mark in their digital calendar, when to meet, convenient time to meet, who are all will be there in a meeting. When any unknown person say, “I have seen you somewhere”, you need to be very careful. That is their common strategy. Leave that place at the earliest. Every second  you waste, intensity of torture level will keep increasing. When they realize, you are not going to be part of their business, the way they speak to you will differ, mostly they will start avoiding you. Simply they will look for next worm. According to art of saying “NO”, the best reason to say NO is “I don’t like”, if you like something or someone , do you have any specific reason, nothing, right!, just like that, if you don’t like, no one insist you to like that.

No one can live rich for long time on others hard work and others intelligence. You must have something by your own. Now a days they came up with lot of strategy, chain marketing, pyramid marketing, telephone marketing and non linear marketing. What ever they market, it must have some worth to the amount consumers hard earned money, else how one can survive with just one time buyers. What ever they market, it has to fit to their geo political, cultural and economical situation. For example, successful advertisement on the western countries may not go well in the middle east. See the simple scenario for energy drink bill board depicted with 3 pictures.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>West>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Man was so tired and about to fall down

Drank the energy drink

Started walking with lot of energy

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<Middle East<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

It went well in the west, but it was a big flop in the middle east Asian countries, in some part of world it was a luxury drink. Obviously you can not live with just energy drink, right!, when people are blinking at sky for main food. According to middle east culture, they used to read and write from right side unlink rest of the world who always start from left side. Just this is one example, if you start from left, energy drink serves its purpose, else if you start right side, contrary to its name, it gives you tiredness.

It is very scary to smile at some one, immediately next question is “do you want any extra income?”. It became new culture. They never bother about anyone, where do they stand, what do they do for living and what is their preference? Just torturing everyone around and trying to get them to their trap with whom so ever they found on their way. What is the problem in opening a separate shop and waiting for customers to come? without investing any money on infrastructure, they are trying to suck the money from the middle class people. You can not talk anything with them, if you say, I am having knee problem, eye problem, cell phone signal issue or car is not giving good mileage, for everything they will come up with their marketing products, more over they add that we are so lucky that we met right person in life to find solution for all of our problem at single point of contact. Really who is lucky?

Actually at the end, they are influencing to loose friendship and relatives. Mother next, brother next, friends next, business first, the pity is, still they are calling it as a business, what culture are they from? No point in buying nice art at the cost of  your eye, then how can you see and enjoy the art, likewise no point in being rich at the cost of your friends and families. For no reason,  never disclose your contact numbers and friends details with some one without their consent. Be firm in declining their invitation. Keep in mind that you never get free lunch, please don’t ask, what about dinner and break fast! These kind of marketing schemes are like building castle out of pack of cards, always they need to be cautious about basement and keep adding something to the basement, it is always tend to collapse at no time.

Marketing Menace - I

In front of one shopping complex at Madurai, I was waiting for my two wheeler to come from parking stand, my wife went to took the vehicle out. At that time I noticed, one person entering into the same complex from the road. He also came by two wheeler. He was driving vehicle while talking over cell phone, keeping phone between his neck and shoulder. No wonder, after ten years if it happens to see lot of people with tilted neck. In 2000 and 2002, head set  was not in use or no socket to connect with cell phone. When you are driving two feeler in this posture, driver might not have full control on vehicle and chances are more to miss the traffic. He might be much used to it, but I felt so uncomfortable and told him, If I get a call, I used to stop the vehicle for a minute, attend and proceed. He replied thank you so much, no one did concern about this and at the end he added his master piece that he liked my body language and the way I conveyed him.  Naturally  human being are much permeable to adulation, right!, so how I am going to be exception out of it. He gave his card and said, evening  he wanted to meet me and wished to discuss lot about expanding his customer circle. Immediately realized  that I invited the problem, at right time my wife came with vehicle, I said bye to him without sharing any of my contact details, silently sat behind her and left the place without leaving any trace behind.

Every one wants to earn money, that is fine but not at the cost of some one or making some one as a scapegoat. In the busy market, they are doing marketing. Once in Chicago, in one of the vegetable shop at Devon street, some one aged around 50 to 55, first he smiled at me, then I too smiled. In fact I did not have time to talk, already time was 8PM, after that I need to drive for two and half hours to go to my town. He enquired, where I was from? I told him. He replied that next week they are also coming there. I did not understand, what do I need to do for it? Shop was already crowded, no place to pick the vegetable with the trolley, my son was also crying, but he was least bothered about all these things. Next he asked, what are you doing? I could not pay full attention to the question. Just replied that I am working. He laughed loudly, might be that was the biggest joke for him. Again he went in detail, “no no, on what you are working? and how was your pay?”. I told him politely, “sir give me some time now, we will talk later, at the earliest I need to leave, I have to drive back for long way”, but somehow I slipped my phone number, I wished to give him junk number, but as I was in hurry and out of reflex, I gave him my right contact number.

As he said, next week without fails, he came there and called me up and asked “when we could meet?” He narrated that he was having new concept for improving the life of monthly waged people, who are just living pay check to pay check. He described himself as savior of world. For anyone, coming across this kind of character was not going to be first or last time. Patiently I explained him that I never interested. Even then he was insisting me why I should not come and listen to his live improving lecture. Repeatedly he was asking for my address. He wanted my whole family to listen and get benefited, what a great people? full time thinking about others well fare only! what else to say!?. At the end, he said his wife also came with him, she wanted to see my child, because last week they could not see him well in the market. Then I started enjoying and decided to put myself in a test, that how long I could talk without giving any clue about my address. Already I gave my phone number to them and being paid for it, again by mistake if my address was leaked out, then immediately I have to run somewhere else. Will we burn house for mosquitoes? but this kind of torture is worse than  that. We only have to be very conscious of saying NO. Once if you made up your mind to say NO, no need to give any explanation, if reason is given, you will be corned again with those horrible well wishers work around.

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Life in Middle East – II

For driving you need license, but what about walking out of home, yes, you must have something like that. When going out, without fails, one must take work permit (Ikkama) or passport with him. No one knows when police comes for patrolling. In their random check, when some one is not having above specified document, he will be taken to police station, then either his employer or visa sponsorer has to come to take him or some of his room mates has to come with Ikkama. Indepedant of profession, they will be taken to police station, without Ikkama how can they make out, what is he doing. Once I forgot to take my passport and left for browsing center. Calling from middle east is bit expensive, so mostly I prefer to chat over net. In 2003 only chatting over net became so popular in all walks of life. When I came out of shopping complex, surprise was waiting for me.

After seeing the cop only I realized, I forgot to take my passport. Other than chatting in browsing center, I did not have anything to do in that shopping complex, even I did not take my wallet also, just took only 1KD (3.5 USD) to chat at browsing center. How long I can roam inside the shopping center without buying anything. For my bad time, cop was also not leaving from that place, might be he ought to cover up, quota of that month. Finally I decided not to stay back, for my bad time, no other way to go to my house. At the end, made up my mind to apply the same technique, what I used to do in college. When lecturer is randomly asking question, those who don’t know, they used to avoid looking at them. Their body language itself show that they have not read what taught yesterday and exactly lecturer used to pick them only, but comfortably I used to look at them as I was so eager to give answer, actually I also did not know the answer, what else I can do, like wise confidently I started walking in front of him without making even a single eye contact. I asked him “excuse me” and simply I passed by, gods grace he could not identify, that I was over acting. After coming home, I was patting myself, as I did a great job in my life, since then as long as I was there, one thing I made sure passport must be with me. Weather you are wearing your inner dress or not, no one is bothered, but never forget to take passport or ikkama with you.

In front of our building, on Wednesday and Thursday, we used to play badminton. because in middle east weekly holiday starts on Wednesday evening, Saturday again we have to go back to office, so Friday evening we used to sit very frustrated like “why it is happening in my life alone”. Then on Saturday morning we used to console our self by saying, “it is ok, we are not alone in this worldly trouble”. In every building there will be security guy (harris in arabic), same guy used to look after maintenance also. He is from Afghanistan. Once he came and told us in broken Hindi “you should not play here,  next time if I see, I will cut the net. We were so surprised, what is the need of telling like this. I could not understand, what went wrong. He put a full stop to our badminton, then myself and friend started playing ping pong in the opposite building. After couple weeks, on week end, when we are returning back to our room after 12’O clock, he took one Pilipino girl with him to his room. He also noticed that we noticed. According to law, that is not right. Next day when I came out of elevator, it happened to meet him. he talked to me politely and told if we want, we could play up to 11 and after that it would be disturbance to neighbors. At least I understood what is the problem and to whom it was a disturbance. Again root cause is, according to his salary level, he was also not having family status.

One day I went to meet one of my friends relative. Reached his house at around 8.30PM.  He was so desperate to send me out of his room when it was about 9PM. Some one knocked the door, when I got up to open, he said “no no, I will open”, because I was sitting close to door. SriLankan lady came. I did not know, weather to leave immediately or to sit like nothing I did see. She directly went inside the kitchen. He himself told, she used to come for cleaning the house and for cooking. For his income and for a single bed room, what is the need of cleaning and cooking, when good quality food was being served all 3 times at staff canteen. With in 5 minutes I came out and asked him to take care. When I was waiting for my taxi, he told me that for your age and newly married people like you talk and try to live in love and affection, I don’t know still how many years of life left for me and if I look back I also did not know, what did I achieve in my life and at least I wanted to be true to myself. It seems, initially he was also not comfortable, now he was not guilty at all. In any way, talking impolite and infidelity, can not be justified, but environment also needs to conducive.

At last I wish to share another incident which happened in my second return trip. When you are travelling in middle east segment, obviously you would have witness that, lot of people used to ask for help to fill up the embarkation form. Moment you start with one form, you will be keep on getting passport with embarkation form, mostly this work continue for around 2 hours from take off. Finally I got completely different passport, that is also Indian passport only, but it looks like a big folder. After filled up his form, I went to his seat to give him. He asked to me sit with him for some time and enquired that “will there be any problem with this passport when I reach India”. Frankly speak, at that time I was also not much aware of such a ad hock passport and that is the first time I am seeing such a document. Shocking thing is, he had some issue with his employer and employer burnt his passport. As I told earlier, without passport, you are non existing person in that land. His last 6 months salary was also not settled. After borrowing from some of his friends, he accumulated some KDs (Kuwaiti Dinars) to buy air ticket to India. When he came to airport they took him to out jail in the airport and he was there for 3 days till they arranged temporary Indian passport. I told him to forget it as a bad dream and not to disclose to anyone at home, no point in revealing bitter past. After reaching Chennai airport, refreshed himself, wore white shirt with tie. Walked to his family as everything went fine in abroad. I too walked past him, as I never knew him before.

Candle melts when it gives brightness, but why we need melt like that. In a job nothing called high or low, salary may differ. Job is for us and we are not for any job. Just it is for our survival, we did not born to do any specific job. We can learn lessons in life, but being lesson to others is a horrible pain.

Life in Middle East - I

I have seen lot of people used to say “he was not having any financial issue, his dad is working in middle east”. During my college days, so many time I got this doubt, from India that is on north west, then why they are calling it as a middle east, I asked few elders and seniors, they told me that they would tell later, but never that day came. The term middle east is originated by British when they were ruling India in 1850. It encompasses southwest Asia, north Africa and Egypt. Now they are trying to stretch up to Afghanistan and Pakistan. Human resource suppliers for middle east mainly focusing  on Qatar, UAE, KSA, Kuwait, Yemen and Bahrain. I was under impression that really they were making huge amount of money. I was surprised, when they are paying that much amount of money, why then local companies are not paying like that. Truth is comparatively salary is higher. Pathetically this little bit difference is at the cost family and friends. Country can be rich, but are we? Every where you may get oil, but do we own? Let us restrict our view to blue collar jobs, and keep high skilled professions aside like Engineers (i.e Mehenthis in arabic) and Doctors.

No one can deny that the way the locals dealing with foreigners are unfriendly. Naturally their language is bit vocalized. Even ordinary sentence also more sounds like they are confronting with you. Most of the work force is from Asian countries. Now I am wondering that if they put the same effort in their native, they can lead better life with their nears and dears. As long as you are just going to office and getting back to house, you could not witness other part of life in the same locality. For getting family status, that is to live with family, that individual must earn certain amount of money, unfortunately human resource suppliers for their own profit and to satisfy the interest of the client, carefully restrict the salary, so as not to exceed that slab.

You can not see any love in the middle east countries, because after the age of eighteen male kids can not stay with their parents. For time being let us ignore those stringent laws, it is having its own gains and pit falls. Other factor is no sufficient college to accommodate foreign population. Getting citizenship is very difficult except few countries. In every house you can find either newly married people or family with school going kids. All together the life in middle east is something like water droplet on lotus leaf, water stays there, but that is not its place. You can not say, your life is going to be there only, but still you will be living over there. The bitter truth is even if they die, their bodies will not be buried over there, it would be dispatched to their country. More than this, how one can have such a extreme non commitment relationship.

At least I get a chance to see, lot of family men living alone over there. I noticed frustration in their eyes. Other than going for shopping, no other better recreation that too if he left with sufficient balance after money has been sent across to family, because as per their visa ( i.e Ikkama in arabic), they don’t have family status. After coming from work, they will change the dress, they will come to parapet wall in front of the building, stare at sky for some time. Sharply at 7’O clock, food will be served. After dinner they will watch television for sometime, then they will get back to the bed, next day mechanically same routine will start again. Don’t ask me then what you do?, because everyone used to do more or less same, but when you are with your family the same routine makes lot of difference.

When I was coming to Chennai by Kuwait airways, guy who is sitting next to me was very restless. I asked him, are you fine? he said “yes”, but actually he was not, then 2 hours before it reach airport, I could see tears in his eyes. When we slowly started talking with each other, he expressed that after 5 years he is going to see his wife, mother and father, that too he left his house within a week after he got married. My goodness!, it is the worst punishment that he had in his life. After reaching Chennai air port, I was waiting with him for around an hour till his family come to airport. When they met, they did not speak, simply they were holding their hands with each other and silently they were shedding tears. This scene deeply etched in my mind, I could not resist this question, is it a open jail? certainly for him it was like that only.

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Meaningful Life

Morning got up, had a coffee, took bath and nice breakfast, then office, again evening coffee, dinner, sound sleep. What a beautiful day. Most of us are not exception out of it. Really are we happy with it? What we done for our self or for others, nothing. Just we are passing the life time as we born on this earth,  very few are only living to show that they are also living with you in the same planet like Dr. Abdul Kalam and Narayana Murthy. These two dignitaries are small example, not complete. Don’t be a victim of corporatocracy. Slogging like anything beyond the expectation for getting chicken feed bonus and promotion. Happiness getting out of it, won’t last long. Shortly it will be faded away. Certainly these things are not going to make your life complete.

Just think of yourself, daily you are going to office in the same route and coming back in the same way. It is routine and monotonous life. Even you don’t know, how many signals you passed by, how many stops sings you would have come across, how many new shops came up in that road, because it is natural human tendency to narrow vision and perspective. You can take different route and consciously watch what is going around us, surely it will give bit better change. At least we need to be watchful about what is going around us. There is big sink hole created in Guatemala. Three story building completely disappeared. To my knowledge still it is news to so many people. Really I am getting doubt that number of sinners are going up. We can not patch that hole, at least we need to know, what is caused and what is the precaution we need to take.

If some one gives money and asks you to do some work, you will do that work with interest till that money has some value, if some one offers you more,  same old work will not be interesting. If same work is given by whom you are admiring more, you will create manifested interest on it as long as you are having respect on him, but if you have some belief, you will be ready give your life also. Every one must have some belief and faith. We should not live without having any hold. You are not born, just to work for some credit card company or software company.

Recently there is an International Indian Film Academy (IIFA) festival organized in Sri Lanka. Indian film artists participated in that. For money and fame, can anything be done. Same thing is applicable to Indian Cricketers also. They have to learn from Amirtaraj brothers. They boycotted 1974 Davis cup held in South Africa. They were against racist policy. These philosophy and ideals not only for common man, public figures must also follow. It shows, they are more addicted to money. Just for money, they are ready to go any where and do anything. Whole world till now they are opposing Hitler's massacre, how come Rajabakshe brothers are fine to them.

We can be a new starting. Set some social responsibility. No point in earning fame and money at the cost of self respect and humanity. Better late than never.

Food and Etiquette

In parties, I have noticed so many times that for no reason, people used to leave some food on plate at the end. In home, when they are arranging parties by their own, lot of people would have witnessed, some guests don’t know what they like and how much they can have, simply fill their plate and trash half of the quantity. Obviously you can not go and tell them, not to waste, but everyone must understand, by wasting like this indirectly you are making some one to starve in some part of world or may be in the same house also. Not only in house, when giving parties in restaurant, if guest waste food, really it hurts the host.

The purpose of buffet is to, help them self with exactly what they need and not to waste. Nothing to hesitate to walk multiple times between our table and table where food is placed. First attempt itself, dumping the plate with attractive item and leaving the other items untouched is not a right practice. Best approach is to take all foods in small quantity and taste all items, then what you like and what you wish to try again, go for it and replenish your plate with quantity that you can complete.

Please don’t pass any negative comments on some ones food or preparation. This is very basis common sense everyone must have. If food is good, you can appreciate, else keep quite and don’t take more, that’s it, apart from that you don’t have any right to criticize, no fun in criticizing, on one can take it as a joke.  You can suggest, that too if you are asked how to improve or how to correct it. You are supposed to appreciate their hospitality and effort that they are putting. Their food and facility is secondary. As you are appreciating it, it does not mean you can finish the whole, ensure you left something for others also.

Obesity is the hidden threat to man kind. Stop continuous snacking like cow and camel, everything needs some rest, right!. then what is the difference between man and grazing animal. Usually food tastes so good to tongue, seldom good for health. Every individual has to act with his own health consciousness. They have to develop manifested interest towards the healthy diet. Eating three times is fine, but eat in such a way that next time you must feel hungry. Take two glass of water before food. Try to have balance diet between breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Break fast – Eat like a king, never skip. Whole night you are fasting and breaking that fasting in the morning, that's why it is called break fast, but so many working class people, they never have anything in the morning, directly they will combine with lunch. In long run, certainly it cause problems.

Lunch – Eat like a normal man.

Dinner – Eat like a beggar even fasting is more better. Those who avoid break fast, eat record break dinner with lot of hunger. Moment they tired of eating, immediately they will sack against the bed. Just distinctly tummy grows.

Health is wealth, if you don’t waste also, wealth grows, so without criticizing others, kindly grow your wealth, not cholesterol.

Popular Mischievous Mind

Life is not just end up with career, right! Apart from career, lot of other things are there. In bird's view, broadly it will fit into wealth or fame or sex. I wish to recollect, one of the famous statements by Canon Doyle. Actually it was depicted as statement given by his imaginary character Sherlock Homes that if intelligent or genius people start to involve in criminal activity, no one can withstand or other way we can put, just this one world is not sufficient for them.

Lot of people don't have any basic idea of Golf, but moment someone said word "golf", immediately everyone think about "Tiger Wood". He got everything in his life on extreme higher end. His bad time started with simple SMS. It must be a lesson for everyone, that no one should keep mobile contacts for extra marital activity. Like old is gold, better they get back to conventional land line with traditional phone equipment. There is a saying that there is a woman behind every successful man, pathetically in his case, there was a lot of woman after his success. It is very interesting that how come he failed to see ahead and failed to plan ahead as posted in his commercial for Accenture.

Suman, is one of the famous actor and very handsome guy in Telgu film industry. He spent nearly 2 years in prison. Why he was behind the bars, even after god blessed him with whatever, most of us lacking of like abundant wealth, intelligence, smart looking, fame, black belt in Karate, fluency in more than 7 languages, kindness and very good political contacts. In early days, he was the only challenge to Chiranjeevi. Even after so many positive factors, his skills went in vain. He was entangled or got himself into trouble, that is immaterial to retrospect, but he lost his valuable 20 years contribution in the film industry. Even 6 months, any film star stayed away from the screen, people will forget them, but he lost his precious skills and time.

Dr. Prakash is another controversial character and topped headlines in 2002. Amazingly brilliant person. He is one of the best ortho specialists. He had number of degrees and certification, used to line up after his name like paragraph. Shockingly he gave drugs to his patients and took pornographic movie. After providing good treatment and guidance to his patients, he ill-treated them and misguided them. Spoiled his own patients life and put them in a irrecoverable miseries. Once he said “I am living in wrong place among wrong people". He may know the right meaning for right people and right place. Recently I got a chance to read one of his book "100 Minutes That'll Change The Way You Live! ". It is a nice book with lot of information in a simple form. In that book there was a small story that 3 camels are talking with each other. Daddy camel is explaining the baby camel about the use of their long legs, big hump and long neck, how it will be useful to them in desert. Finally baby camel is asking, "Then what are we doing with this here". Unfortunately they are standing in one of the zoo in Boston, MA. The same story is absolutely applicable to him only.

Common cause of this entire problem might be lack of affection that they are expecting. Middle age mania will skew the interest and divert the whole path. After some time even if they want to come out of it, things would have gone out of their control. Anyone can have knowledge, but if it is with the wrong person, it is like a knife in the hands of murderer instead of Doctor who can safe life. Good friends and nice family will save your life. It is a responsibility of the life partner to show love and affection to compensate their success, getting success and fame is not their only duty, no one is just born for it. Getting wealth at the cost of good morale is Pyrrhic victory.

iPad Fever

During coffee break, I have seen lot of colleagues used to describe the features of iPad, iPhone, BMW, iPod, iTouch, Mercedes Benz, Volkswagen and etc. No doubt, these are top notch brands in the list of electronic equipments and cars. Even who invented that products also would not have described that much about that product. Once Steve jobs find some time to come to our break rooms, surely he would wonder about these non paid marketing guys of iPhone and iPad, that too working for some other company on monthly salary basis.

Most of the time, they are getting into pseudo utopia of using these new products, sorry, having these new products. Seldom they find the actual use of it. They would not have spend half of these money for their parents, but when iPhone comes to market, they are so proud to stand in queue for the whole night and buy it with considerable portion of their pay check. If we are buying something out of peer pressure, our civic responsibility should wake up to say, no to it.

Once if you buy iPhone, it is not going to be end up with just one time, it is like feeding an elephant. Every month you have to pay for data plan. Find some time, to calculate that data plan for 2 years. Surely it would exceed three hundred dollars per year. Really if that much revenue is getting generated out of that data plan, then undoubtedly it is worth feeding it.

iPad is just bigger size of iTouch, its dimensions also not that much user friendly to carry around. The way iPad was hold, that itself give some idea, how comfortable it would not be. iPhone is having various reasons to justify, no way to deny that. In a single device you can find so many features of the single product like GPS, Camera, iPod, Phone, kindle and etc. iPhone is unbelievably versatile, but same grace is not going to carry forward for their evolution of products.

iPod=Music+Vedio+Flash Drive
iPhone=GPS+Game+Kindle+Phone+Camera+iPod
iTouch = iPhone-phone-camera+WiFi
iPad = magnified (iTouch)

Gullible consumers have to realize, no point in being proud of using costly branded invention of some one. You did not invent anything by your own, so you don’t have to feel great about buying these products. If you find actual use of it, you can go for it, else buy apples with that cost, because an apple a day keeps the doctor away.

Sun TV Vs Nityanandha

If someone projects himself as a god man, public only has to get full alert. No one can put him behind the bars, because whatever he did, nothing against law, but against innocent public belief. One good thing is, Premanandha will not feel alone, he is having good company. He claimed that he could see 360 degree around him when he is in meditation, unfortunately he could not predict, he will be in such embarrassing trouble.

Better these god men, be in a married life and do social welfare work. Whatever he preached, everything good. No can blame that, it does not mean, he has to follow that. He did not do anything wrong, it is simple human need, again he proved no one can go against nature, unnecessarily what is the need of showing others that he took Bramacharyam at the age of 12 and do something against his own norms behind the screen. He is not something different from ordinary people, he also got into fantasy of films stars.

Media has to act in a very responsible manner. SUN is such a popular TV network. If they show such content, it is very difficult for people to watch television with kids. In so many houses, they complained that they could not switch on TV for a whole week. Just one photo out of that video is more than enough. It is more seems like SUT TV is having some own issues with him. Why SUN TV involved in explicit broadcast of this content and showed this much interest in peel off his mask.

Is SUN TV against that actress or that fake holy man? Couple of months back, whole film industry expressed their cotempt against magazine reporter. It would have forced media to take revenge against film actors and actresses. In the next blog, let us have another view of film actor’s condemnation about reporter.

Installing TOra on Windows and working with Oracle - just 4 steps away

Tora is one of the good alternatives for Toad.

It is very friendly tool for oracle and mysql server

Assumption: Already oracle client is installed

1. Link to download Tora: http://sourceforge.net/projects/tora/files/
2. Install Tora in C:\Tora or D:\Tora
3. Go to that respective folder, without fails remove oci.dll
4. Select control Panel->System->Advanced->Environment Variables->Click on New

In variable Name field type ‘TNS_ADMIN’

In variable value field type path of the tnsnames.ora file as given below

Start Tora and make short cut for it in desktop.

Automatically in database drop down box, all SIDs will be populated from TNSNAMES.ORA

Have fun connecting to oracle

If you have any issues, please post your questions. Try to provide feedback at the earliest.

எங்கே செல்லும் இந்த பாதை

சமீபத்தில் அம்பாசமுத்திரம் அருகே ஒரு காவலர் பரிதாபமாக குண்டு வீசியும், வெட்டியும் கொல்லப்பட்டிருக்கிறார். சுகாதரத்துறை அமைச்சரும், மற்றுமொரு அமைச்சரும் அந்த வழியாக வந்து கொண்டிருந்தனர். அமைச்சர் வாகனத்துடன், சம்பவத்தை அறிந்தவுடன், அணைத்து வாகனங்களும் நின்றன. முதலுதவி வாகனம் வரத் தாமதமானதால், அங்கிருந்த காவல் துறை வாகனத்திலே அவர் கொண்டு செல்லப்பட்டார், இருந்தும் அவர் பிழைக்கவில்லை என்பது ஒரு வருந்தத்தக்க செய்தி. இந்த சம்பவத்தை குறித்து அமைச்சரையும், சுற்றி இருப்பவர்களையும் குறை கூறுவது முற்றிலும் தவறு, ஏனெனில், சம்பவ இடத்தை கடந்து அமைச்சர் செல்லவில்லை, மேலும் அமைச்சர் நேரடியாக சென்று முதலுதவியும் செல்ல இயலாது. உடனடி நிவாரணத் தொகையாக, லத்திகாசரன் அவர் குடும்பத்துக்கு சேர வேண்டிய தொகையை குடுத்து உதவி செய்திருக்கிறார். எந்த ஒரு தொகையும் ஒரு உயிருக்கு சமமாகாது. பாதிக்கப்பட்ட குடும்பத்திற்க்கு, இந்த தொகை இழந்த குடும்ப உறுப்பினற்க்கு மாற்றும் ஆகாது.

இந்த செய்தியின் தாக்கம் சிறிது காலத்திற்க்கு பிறகு ஒரு கறை வேட்டியின் தலையீட்டால் காற்றுடன் கரைந்தும் போகும். ஆனால் திருத்த வேண்டியது என்னவோ குண்டரும்,குண்டரை இயக்குபவரும்தான். திருடனாய்ப்பார்த்து திருந்தாவிட்டால் திருட்டை ஒழிக்க முடியாது, என்பது திருடனுக்கு பொறுந்தும், ஆனால், இது ஒரு கொலைகாரனுக்கும், லஞ்சம் வாங்கும் அரசாங்க ஊழியனுக்கும் பொருந்துமா?

லஞ்சம் என்பது சட்டத்திற்க்கு உட்படாத நடைமுறை கேடாகிவிட்ட ஒன்று. இது உலகம் முலுவதும் பல உருவங்களில் செயல் பட்டு வரும் ஒவ்வாமை. இது நமது நாட்டில் பணம் எனும் ரூபத்தில் அசுர வளர்ச்சி கொண்டிருக்கிறது. முன்பெல்லாம் வெளி நாட்டில் சம்பாதித்து, உள் நாட்டில் முதலீடு செய்வது நடைமுறை, ஆனால் இன்று உள் நாட்டில் கையூட்டு பெற்று, அயல் நாடுகளில் உள்ள நிதி நிறுவனங்களில் பதுக்கி வைக்கும் அளவுக்கு பரிணாம வளர்ச்சி பெற்றுள்ளது. இதில் அரசியலும், காவல் துறையும் தன்னை முதலிடத்தில் தக்க வைத்து கொள்வதற்க்கு, இரவு பகல் பாராது இடை விடாத போட்டி. இவர்கள் உதவி இன்றி, யாரவது ஒருவன் ரவுடியாக தலையடுக்க முடியமா என்றால், கண்டிப்பாக இல்லை. ஒரு முறை தவறு செய்து காவல் துறையிடம் சிக்கிக்கொண்டால், பிறகென்ன? புலி வாலை பிடித்த கதைதான். இறுதி வரை ரவுடி எனும் அரிதாரத்துடனே சாக வேண்டும், இல்லை உயிரை காப்பற்றிக்கொள்ள அரசியலில் புகுந்து மக்களின் உயிரை எடுக்க வேண்டும். அம்பாசமுத்திரத்தில் நிகழ்ந்தது ஒர் உதாரணம். எந்த ஒரு காரணமும் இன்றி, பத்திரிக்கைகளும், தொலைக்காட்ச்சிகளும் வரிந்து கட்டிக்கொண்டு அமைச்சரை கூற்றம் சாட்டின. பாதிக்கப்பட்டது போலிஸ் என்பதால் இவ்வளவு அமர்க்களம். காவல் துறைக்கே இந்த கதி, சாமன்யனின் கதி அதோ கதிதான்.

முதல் முறை தவறு செய்தவனை மன்னித்து திருத்துவதற்க்கு ஒரு சட்டம் அமைய வேண்டும், கண்டிப்பாக சிறைக்கு அனுப்பக்கூடாது, சிறைக்கு அனுப்பி அவனை நிரந்தர திருடனாக மாற்றக்கூடாது. சட்டம் ஒரு புறம் இருக்கட்டும், அன்றாட வாழ்வில் நாமும் கடைபிடிக்க வேண்டியது அத்தியாவசியம். உதாரணமாக, நமது வீடுகளில் வேலையாட்கள் ஒரு முறை திருட்டில் ஈடு பட்டால் நாம் அவர்களை நிரந்தரமாக அடித்து விரட்டி விடுவோம், என்றாவது நாம் அவர்களை மன்னித்து, குறிப்பாக அடிக்காமல் மீண்டும் வேலை செய்ய அனுமதித்துள்ளோமா? நான் ஒரு முறை மன்னித்து உள்ளேன், எனக்கும் வெளியே சென்ற பொருள் மீண்டும் கிடைத்தது, அவர்களுக்கும் உணர்வுப்பூர்வமாக திருந்துவதற்க்கு வாய்ப்பாகவும் அமைந்தது.

போலிசின் அனுகுமுறை கண்டிப்பாக மாற்றப்பட வேண்டியது அவசியம். புலியின் தாக்குதல் வீரமல்ல,அதனுடைய பயத்தின் வெளிப்பாடு, ரவுடியும் அதுபோலத்தான். அப்படி ஒரு வித பயத்தில் இருப்பவனை பிடித்து கட்டி வைத்து அடித்து துன்புறுத்தி, அவன் வெளியே வரும் போது, சமுதாயத்தின் மீதும், குறிப்பாக காவல் துறையின் மீதும் ஒரு வன்மம் கொள்ளச்செய்து விடுகிறது. மாறாக, பொது பணித்துறையில் அவர்களை ஈடு படுத்தி, மரியாதை எனும் அஸ்த்திரத்தால் வாழ்க்கை பாதையை மாற்றி அமைக்கலாம். ஒவ்வொருவரும் பத்து தலைமுறைக்கு சொத்து சேர்க்க வேண்டிய அவசியமில்லை, கடைசில் சாப்பிடப்போவதோ வயிறு முட்டும் வரைதான், படுக்கப்போவதோ ஒரு அரையில்தான். நான்கு அறை இருப்பதற்க்காக, நான்கு அறையிலும் உருண்டு புரண்டு படுக்கப்போவதில்லை. ஆகையால் அடுத்த தலைமுறைக்கு எந்த மாதிரி குணாதிசியங்களை நாம் முன் உதாரணமாக விட்டுச்சென்றோம் என்பதும், எந்த மாதிரி ஒரு தரமான சுற்றுப்புறத்தை விட்டுச்செல்கிறோம் என்பதே முக்கியம்.